Of all the judgements that we pass in life,
None is as important as the one we pass on ourselves,
For that judgement touches the very centre of our existence.
 

The first act of honoring the self is the assertion of consciousness: the choice to think, to be aware.o send the searchlight of consciousness outward toward the world and inward toward our own being. To default on this effort is to default on the self at the most basic level.

To honor the self is to be willing to think independently, to live by our own mind, and to have the courage of our own perceptions and judgements.

To honor the self is to be willing to know not only what we think but also what we fell, what we want, need, desire, suffer over, are frightened or angered by - and to accept our right to experience such feelings. The opposite of this attitude is denial, disowning, repression - self-repudiation.

To honor the self is to preserve and attitude of self-acceptance - which means to accept what we are, without self-oppression or self-castigation, without any pre tense about the truth of our own being, pre tense aimed at deceiving either ourselves or anyone else.

To honor self is to live authentically, to speak and act from our innermost convictions and feelings.
To honor the self is to refuse to accept unearned guilt, and to do our best to correct such guilt as we may have earned.
To honor the self is to be committed to our right to exist which proceeds from the knowledge that our life does not belong to others and that we are not here on earth to live up to someone else's expectations. To many people, this is a terrifying responsibility.

To honor the self is to be in love with our own life, in love with our possibilities for growth and for experiencing joy, in love with the process of discovery and exploring our distinctively human potentialities.

Thus we can begin to see that to honor self is to practice selfishness in the highest, noblest, and least understood sense of that word. And this, I shall argue, requires enormous independence, courage, and integrity.

A person torn by the disparity between his inner complexity and his dream of logic.
No significant aspect of our thinking, motivation, feelings, or behavior is unaffected by our self-evaluation.

  Out of high self esteem will come true acts of kindness and charity, not selfishness. Charity we give and receive will be enhanced by the love we give ourselves.

... if I can accept that I am, that I feel what I feel, that I have done - if I can accept myself it whether I like all of it or not - then I can accept myself. I can accept my shortcomings, my self-doubts, my poor self esteem. And whem I can accept all that, I have put myself on the side of reality rather than attempting to fight reality. I am no longer twisting my consciousness in knots to maintain delusions about my present condition. And so I clear the road for the first steps of strengthening my self-esteem ...

   So long as we cannot accept the fact of what we are at any given moment of our existence, so long as we cannot permit ourselves fully to be aware of the nature of ours choices and actions, cannot admit the truth into ours consciousness, we cannot change.
 
 

Cease from anger, and forsake wrath:
fret not thyself in any wise to do evil.

Anger : - A protective shield, to help we feel less vulnerable and more powerful.

When quest of love in turns of time
Conquers over fear and failure
A little tinkering heart mended and melts
For not the girl who mend it but
Of a girl who never much think of it.
When the time, she asked
Why and what do I want
I gave the closest of my heart
With tears falling down
On my cheek to my throat
As a child wish his dearest
Like a young man facing
The time of his life
I never gave that answer
But actions speak louder
Than words, I suppose
A little gesture of touch
A tender moment of true
 

To sorrow
I bade good morrow,
And thought to leave her far away behind;
but cheerly, cheerly;
She loves me dearly;
She is so constant to me, and so kind.
I would deceive her,
And so leave her,
But ah! She is so constant and so kind.
The quest for thought
Profound thee unknown
The dream desire sought
In truth is not thy truth
Midst shall strive for
Nothing seem to end
In hearts in dreams
For those quest's to end.